Shannon’s Perspective:
“The walls run high to veil a swelling tear.”
First of all, as a girl born in the early 70’s I wanted to be Stevie Nicks. She was everything I thought was cool and wanted to be…beautiful, talented, strong, independent and slightly witchy. I was mesmerized by her and loved how she seemed to be true to herself. I still am.
Larry picked this song and to be honest until he read me his perspective, I wasn’t sure if he picked this song relative to me or him. Yes, as an introvert it can sometimes be a chore to get Larry to open up and talk to me but even as the extrovert in the relationship, I have a habit of shutting down when its time to have the difficult conversations. A lot of that stems from the fact that I’m a crier, I can’t help it. It’s how I regulate my emotions, kind of like a tea kettle letting off steam. A little bit at a time so as to avoid a complete meltdown but it makes it hard to talk when you are crying and especially when you are mad and crying. So yes, both of us have room for improvement in the “talk to me” category but we are a work in progress, even after 30 years.
First a word from our audience. I had a suggestion to provide the songs, so I dug in last night and figured out how to add a link to my posts! And Shannon gave me a "Upward WordPress" medal when I got home today. For those not in the know, there used to be, and maybe still is, Upward Soccer, Upward Basketball, etc. - which is basically a philosophy of "everyone's a winner" even when they lose. I still follow the philosophy of my old No Fear shirt that stated: Second Place Is The First Loser.
Anyway, I changed the format a little bit. You will now see who selected the song(s) for the night, and that will be linked to a video on YouTube (as long as I can find one).
So why this song? Let me start by saying I think Stevie Nicks is a badass. She is a fantastic artist and I have a secret obsession with Fleetwood Mac.
In all seriousness, and this may come as a shock to most - but I am an extremely introverted person. And as such, I rarely talk. I love to observe, I love to think, I love to get lost in my own ADHD worlds. But that's a problem for others who are ultra-extroverts; not just simple extroverts, mind you. They are on the level of ultra-marathoners; so Shannon.
Unfortunately for her, I probably go beyond the typical "my husband never talks to me".
At one point, or another, or many times, Shannon has used this exact phrase - talk to me. And just like how I interpret the song, it's not exactly during the high-points of our relationship. But like I stated, I like to think. And I've thought about this song quite a bit relative to myself as a husband. And realized I could do better. So I try. Am I better than before? I'd like to think so. Can I do better? I know so.
Ghost of a Chance 